We are all alive (I can guarantee if you are reading this right now you are conscious and breathing.) We all have our own life's; different stories, different problems, and different circumstances. How we are now is reflected on our history; our past. So then tell me how is it fair for someone to judge your current personality? Especially because it is who you are. Society has led kids to grow into teenagers that do not know who they are. Through life and experiences we are supposed to find ourselves; at least that is what we are told. Yet finding yourself in a world full of judgment, expectations, and hate is nearly impossible. "I do what I want, I don't care what people think." Everyone in high school has heard people say this. It is a good motto to have, yet most only speak it. The way we dress, the way we talk, the way we walk. It's all judged. People also determine who we are based on who we use to be, but I can guarantee I am no where near the same person I was three years ago.

In most of middle school I wanted to be liked by all my friends. Sounds typical right? Anytime I showed even a speck of individuality, I was always shot down. I have never truly been a follower, but I kept personal views to myself. In middle school I was annoying, I was irritating, I was attention seeking, and over dramatic. I was the type of person who I swore to never be. I allowed opinions and stereotypes get to me. I wanted to be cool. Well now I am who I want to be. I have begun truly finding myself, and I have changed. The issue is people still to this day judge me on who I use to be. They tell people "she's annoying", "she's boy crazy", "she is over dramatic". I certainly don't want people creating views of me based on expired personality traits.

Walking around I hear people saying the same type of things about others. Everyone has a reason for who they are! It is wrong an callous to say things about people whenever you don't even know their story. Of course there are ungrateful, rude, annoying, people who have no obvious reason for who they are, but I promise every single person has been influenced one way or another to become the human they are. I am an analytical thinker. I always have to find the reason why. I always look for the secret meaning. Sure, that means I also over think  things, and to me they become a bigger deal, but due to my thought process I also see people aren't always they way they are just because they were "born that way". Of course you have to disregard the people who are literally born with traits, disease of mind, or disorders, but most personality traits are acquired over time.

Also, I can't stand when an incident happens and people automatically hate that person. For instance, someone hits your moms car on accident and she is fatally injured. Of course, It hurts you and you hate whatever caused it. Although it is east to hate the person who caused it; you shouldn't. They already feel bad, and they know how hard forgiving them would be. This is definitely a more extreme case though, smaller incidents that don't even cause injuries also happen. It is perfectly fine to hate the action, but it is wrong to hate the person.

Instead of always listening to the stories you hear, and depicting who a person is based off it, people need to get to know them first. Don't tell me not to talk to someone just because of something that you have heard or a past experience with them. People should get to know each other's personal backstories before stereotyping who they are based on things going around. Everyone wants a chance to be known, and everyone deserves that chance.