To the girl that comes next… there are some things you should know.
 

 Starting with, it doesn’t matter how hard you try, his mother will never like you. He’ll try to convince you she doesn’t dislike you as much as you think she does. She might make polite conversation and even then, you can tell it’s forced. She is an extremely judgemental, rude, jealous person. You could be absolutely perfect, yet she’d still find something wrong with you. Have fun with that.
 

 In the beginning everything might seem perfect. He’ll text you everyday, don’t worry about that. As much as you might enjoy the attention at first, it gets to be a bit excessive. He will constantly be asking who you’re talking to, what you’re doing, who you’re hanging out with, etc. It really isn’t fun to deal with. He may seem perfect for the first month or so, but then he gets comfortable around you and starts to show all the extreme flaws he has. He is one of the absolute most jealous people I have ever met in my life. He will slowly try to control your life. It might be subtle at first, but it becomes more and more noticeable as time passes. Your group of friends will start to narrow down to who he likes. He won’t like half of the people you’re friends with. He wants you all to himself, even though he will never make an effort to see you. “I miss you” will become a regular text you get. It’s not like he’ll do anything about it though. He just wants to make sure you haven’t forgot about him even though you saw him yesterday. “I love you” gets thrown around too easily. He will say it so often, you will notice it starts to lose meaning and I’m sorry for that.
   

Here’s something that will really screw with your head though, if you've made it through all of that because you, like me, became blind to everything he did. He will cheat on you. Whether it’s texting or flirting with another girl or facetiming the other girls. He will promise you and try to convince you that they’re just friends, even if you have proof of everything that happened. It really messes with your head when he does this. Don’t let him make you think you’re less than you are. Keep the confidence you have. Know that you can always do better than him. Even if you think there is no one else that would ever want to be with you, like I thought. There is always someone else that would be happy to go out with you or be in a relationship with you. He is not the last resort. He is not the best you can do, I promise.

 When you two get in fights or arguments and you know that everything you’re saying is one hundred percent right and correct, he will try to turn the situation around so that you seem like the one who’s in the wrong. Do not let him convince you it’s your fault. He’ll think that it's okay to do this to you and will continue doing it. If you know you’re right, keep pushing how you feel. Do whatever you want, wear whatever you want because, when he’s gone you have to still have your own life. He will not stick around forever and by the end, you probably won’t want him to. You, like me, will become extremely tired of his lies, cheating, emotional abuse, etc. You will be better off on your own. That is 100% guaranteed. When he promises ‘forever’, he does not mean it. Even if at the time you think you will stay together ‘forever’, it's all lies.

You will probably be heartbroken the day you two separate, but do what I’ve done. Put together a playlist of angry breakup songs. This will also show you that you’re not the only person in the world that has gone through this. You will feel alone, but not for long. The most important thing that I had to do, was keep reminding myself of all of the crap he put me through and then I eventually started to hate him. I know you shouldn’t hate anyone, but he makes it so, so easy to do. Do not let him hurt you, he’s not worth crying over. Cry all you want though when it ends. It will help, but when you finish, never cry over him again. Show him what he lost. Make sure he knows that he had his chance and that he’s never getting you back. Do not go back to him, that will just show him he won. That’s the last thing you want to happen, trust me.
     

You will move on and be happy again. You thought you couldn’t live without him, but here you are living, breathing. You’re finally free of him and now you need to find someone that actually knows what you’re worth. Find someone who will let you live your own life and won’t try to make himself the center of your world. You will be okay. That is a promise that I can make to you.